We always here the saying that "no man is an
island" and I do agree with that. How can we survive without
the existence of one another? In the first place, we would not exist if there
is no union between two human beings. We were born weak, helpless, and fragile.
Growing up, we still rely on other people.
Let's say, right after graduation, you have this dream of moving
out from your parents and start living a life on your own. I mean, who doesn't
want to be independent, right? I bet lots of teens do. Being independent means
you're a mature individual. You can handle things on your own, make decisions
on your own, pay the bills on your own (so it's not always a
bed of roses).
Ever had a bucket list when you were younger? Or a diary you keep
on your bedside drawer, and in it are your dreams and aspirations you've
written and would love to make it come true someday? I do.
I am currently nineteen years old, and still, I have no idea where
I'm heading. Sure, I'll be graduating in a few months, but where will I go? I
have a degree, but where will it take me? I'm still not certain. I wanted to be
prepared for the future, but I guess the future is not prepared for me.
And this is what I'm scared of.
For once, I want my life to go according to my plan. For the past
years, I have been under the shadows of so many people, people who are trying
to get in my shoes and showing me who's the boss of my life. They're are the
people who would manipulate your decisions and steer your actions in accordance
to them. I try so hard to do things my way, but I guess I'm not trying hard
enough. My life is one giant sock puppet.
What hurts the most is that these kind of people are the ones who
are very close to your heart, people you know firsthand that they will be the
ones who will support you along with whatever decisions you'll be making.
Disappointingly, they're the ones who would turn their backs on you, and even
suggest a route that you should be taking instead.
One of the biggest regrets of my life is always saying yes to
something I know I'm not comfortable with. As much as I love these people,
they're taking away what I would want to achieve in life. They made me place my
dreams in the pending tray, since it has been clouded with their judgement, and
looking at me now, I feel like I have no sense of direction in my life so
far. In life, as much as you are surrounded with the people you are very
close with, they could also be the ones who you'd feel distant to.
You know them, but do they know you?
And this is what I'm trying to say: We have the capability
to decide for ourselves, but there are people who also have the capability to
decide for us. We are on our own, but we are not alone. When things aren't going your way because someone says it's not
the path for you, who are they to tell you? As long as your decisions are for
yourself, and it will be for the betterment for you as an individual, then go
for it. Trust your capabilities, and prove them wrong, because in the end, it's
where your happiness that counts, not theirs.